It is possible to see ourselves?
Think about this. A person may look down and see only parts of the body, chest, arms, hands, torso, private parts, legs, and feet, but can a person ever truly see themselves? When one looks into a mirror, a reflection is presented. It is a reflection of the light that hits the surface of the body. The image is reversed. It is not so easy to notice this, unless some writing is held up to the mirror and then it becomes obvious that the letters are backwards. So what are we really seeing?
When we engage with other people the same is true, we only see a reflection of ourselves, not necessarily our true nature. Others may react to our physical appearance, our personality, our comments, or some combination of these, but do they actually know us, the real essence of who we are, our beingness? Not likely, because in most cases we do not know this ourselves. The reason is because it is ever changeable. Reality is fluid, in constant motion, and subject to interpretation. Any perception of reality is only a momentary snapshot of that instance taken by one particular conscious awareness from their point of view. It is fleeting, unreliable, and not necessarily true.
Our entire world, or at least our concept of it, is made up of these perceptual “snapshots” that are stitched together in a vast tapestry of human existence over time. We have made a model of reality and we have created conditioned fields within it, by teaching our children to see things the way we do. This is the source of separation within the whole, the way we define ourselves. We mentally make a circle to contain a group of thoughts, impressions, and memories. Then we artificially define this collection in our minds as a concept to give it some form of meaning. This is how we have created nation states and made artificial boundary lines on the earth to separate one from the other; when the truth is that the entire earth is our home. We have created friends, families, dogma and religion out of this as well. The minute we define any part of our consciousness as separate from the whole, it gives it meaning, but it also creates a void between ourselves and others that are not included.
The key to deeper understanding of reality is to question our concepts of reality. Does anyone have the power to define reality? Can they do so in a comprehensive way? Consider this metaphor. If total perception is a field from floor to ceiling, human perception is only a razor-thin slice of the total. This is very easy to prove, just look at the sounds that animals can hear that humans cannot.
We must embrace our limitations and recognize them. It is also clear that the perceiver affects the perception. Scientific evidence based on rational thought has demonstrated the observer’s effect on the outcome of that being observed is different for every person and its actual reality.
All those who know you, are your reflections, meaning if you are good, you will see only good in others. Similarly, if you think positive, you will not be able to notice the negativity in others. Howsoever you may be true to yourself, normally it is others who can observe you better than your own self. Furthermore, even if you keep presenting yourself differently to others, inwardly your spiritual awareness and integrity determines who you really are. For it is only when you become aware, that your mind becomes conscious to indulge, experience and realize what you are and of course your body reveals how you are.
It is also very important to like yourself. There are many who really do not like themselves or are not happy with their present status. There are always comparisons, envy, demands, pressures and what not bringing down your self-esteem. Please do remember that you have a strong relationship with your external and inner personality, and the simple method is you need to spend time with yourself and love that aloness in order to enjoy your own company in solitude. It is only when you love your own self that you shall be able to love others.